how to end your relationship with your boyfriend without hurting him ?

Hello guys...

i would like to draw your attention to this subject as this is a very common scenarios nowadays... Girl out there, you should take a good note on this topic! Girls, you've found your so-called dream boyfriend and as day goes by you've realized that your boyfriend is not the person that you've been waiting for or maybe you have other excuses on this matter or maybe you have found the 'real guy' for you. Should you be sneaking out behind your boyfriend's back?? that sounds so pathetic.. Being dumped is excruciating, but being the person who ends the relationship is terribly difficult as well. If your boyfriend is a big jerk, giving him the boot shouldn’t be too hard. However, if he is a sweet, kind, good guy and you are just not that into him, telling him it’s over is tough. You know the relationship is not going to go anywhere, but you really don't want to hurt him. A painless breakup may be impossible, but you can still let him down gently... but how??? these are few ideas...if you guys out there have any other better idea you are most welcome to contribute it in this blog.

Girls, you could try these method below and i have to admit those methods below are quite challenging..

1. Choose a day to dump your boyfriend. Make sure it is a completely insignificant date. Don't add insult to injury by breaking up with him on his birthday, Valentine's Day or the anniversary of the day his dog died.

2. Keep your distance for at least 1 week prior to the date you have set. Don't call, message or visit your boyfriend during this time. If he calls you or stops by, tell him you are busy. This gives you time to consider what to say and to be certain you really want to go through with it. Your boyfriend is also likely to sense that something is up, and will (hopefully) start to prepare himself emotionally.

3. Meet at a place where you are both comfortable, but one that is not too crowded with people. You don't want him to feel embarrassed or humiliated if he gets choked up or teary. Make sure it is someplace you will be able to leave quickly and easily, just in case he starts to make a scene or things become heated.
Meet the questions your boyfriend will likely have with genuine answers and tactful words. When stating your reasons for breaking up, start your sentences with "I" instead of placing blame. For example, instead of saying "You don't make me happy," you might say, "I'm not happy."

4. Be honest with your boyfriend about your reasons for wanting to break up. Get right to the point. At the same time, be sensitive and choose your words carefully. It's a good idea to rehearse what you are going to say several times before you meet. Have the conversation while looking in a mirror, or ask a good friend to role-play with you.

5. Wish him the best. Tell him that you truly hope he finds someone who will love him the way he deserves to be loved--then reiterate that it's just not you. Don't say anything that might give him false hope, such as "I'll always care for you" or "I'll still be here if you need someone to talk to." As much as you may hurt for him, the best thing you can do now is walk away and allow him to work through his pain.



TIPS & WARNINGS :

• Try to avoid contact with your ex for about 2 months after breaking up. This will give you both time to heal and start to move on. Then, if you are both open to it, you can try to be friends.
• Never break up with someone via email, voice mail or text message. Doing so would be completely insensitive, not to mention downright tacky.